Brandi Carlile Forgives Pastor For Not Baptizing Her As a Teenager Because of Her Sexuality

Brandi Carlile
David McClister

Brandi Carlile

The singer is encouraging fans to share their stories of forgiveness inspired by her forthcoming LP, 'By The Way I Forgive You.'

Folk singer-songwriter Brandi Carlile took to social media to share a story about a pastor who refused to baptizing her as a teenager because of her sexuality. In the post, she explained that she forgave the pastor and encouraged fans to share their own stories of forgiveness with the hashtag #bythewayiforgiveyou -- which doubles as her upcoming album title (By The Way, I Forgive You), out Feb 16.

“It was not so much that you wouldn’t or couldn’t do it because of the tenants put in place by the baptist rules and traditions, but because you waited until all my family and friends were present and waiting in the pews for the ceremony.”

She also shared how the experience shaped her: “The experience inspired me to help other gay kids and my spiritual LGBTQ brothers and sisters come to terms with the disappointments they’ve endured on the rugged road to peace and acceptance.”

Read the full note below.

Please join me in sharing your stories of forgiveness. Don't forget to use the hashtag #bythewayiforgiveyou.

I would like to forgive Pastor Tim.

I forgive you for deciding not to baptize me when I was a teenager for being gay.

It was not so much that you wouldn’t or couldn’t do it because of the tenants put in place by the baptist rules and traditions, but because you waited until all my family and friends were present and waiting in the pews for the ceremony.

I don’t believe you did it to humiliate me - I think you struggled with the decision and simply ran out of time... I think you probably still do struggle with it.

I’d like you to know that I still love you and that I understand we’re all on a journey together, trying our best to walk through the world with honor and dignity - but what I want you to know most of all is that you did not damage my faith. Not in god, not in humanity and not in myself.

The experience inspired me to help other gay kids and my spiritual LGBTQ brothers and sisters come to terms with the disappointments they’ve endured on the rugged road to peace and acceptance. I think you’d appreciate that process.

You’ve helped far more people than you’ve hurt and you helped me too.

Thank you

xobc

#bythewayiforgiveyou

The singer also announced a #bythewayiforgiveyou competition? where she asked fans to share moments of forgiveness on social media with the hashtag. Fifty entries will be shared to Carlile's Facebook account and the most inspiring entry will win an all-expense trip to meet the singer and her band at a performance at Red Rocks in Colorado.

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